Wednesday, May 14, 2008

To J-bear on your 18th birthday

To my J-bear:

I really thought it would be easy to write your birthday post. I thought the words would flow like water onto my keyboard.

I thought I would have no trouble finding a way to tell you what you mean to me.

To tell you what an amazing thing it has been for me to be your stepmother.

To tell you how proud I am of how you've grown from the scared little bunny you were when I first met you almost eight years ago to the beautiful woman you are today.

To tell you how the flash of your smile lights up a room.

But I find that the words are not coming quite as easily as I thought.

What I hear in my head instead is a collection of little phrases:

"Can you braid my hair, Janet?"

"Here -- I made this for you."

"Will you take me shopping?"

"Do you want to see my art project?"

"I knew you would like this ..."

"You are coming to karate belt testing, aren't you?"

"I couldn't wait to tell you ..."

"Will you help me study for my vocab test?"

"I should have come to you first."

"Thank you."

So, no, J-Bear. In honor of your 18th birthday, the words that come most easily are: "Thank YOU."

Thank you for coming to live with us and giving Roo-girl the real sister she craved.

Thank you for the good-night hugs. Every single time.

Thank you for the giggles.

Thank you for putting up with the woman who made you share your daddy.

Thank you for being the one to comfort me when I cried over having to give up our dog Dusty.

Thank you for giving me a chance to give you a chance.

Thank you for your earnestness and your refusal to give up.

Thank you for the Mother's Day flowers.

Thank you for your incredible heart.

Today you are officially an adult. A grown woman.

But I want to say thank you for being my J-bear.

All my love,


maggie's mind said...

Aw, that was really awesome. Good stuff. I hope you will get to celebrate such a big birthday somehow special together.

HRH said...

So sweet. I love the attitude of thanks for sharing your dad. It says a lot about why your adore each other. What a beautiful girl!

Janet said...

She is a beauty, isn't she? And lovely inside as well. I think you're both very lucky to have each other.

The Rotten Correspondent said...

Dammit, Janet. Now you've made me get my keyboard all soggy.

That was lovely. And so is she.

LceeL said...

Sometimes, just sometimes, all the patience and the loving and the effort just pays off. Pays off bigtime. Like now. She is gorgeous, and she shows an inner person that just seems to shine. Like you. A reflection, perhaps?

nikki said...

Happy birthday J-bear! Wow, what a lovely woman!

The Laundress~JJ! said...

You've gone and made me cry.

Happy Birthday J-Bear...

Secret Agent Mama said...

Amazingly sweet!!

Janet said...

Happy birthday J-bear!

The Immoral Matriarch said...

So sweet! Happy BDAY J!

Burfica said...

What a beautiful young woman and a very beautiful post.

Rachael said...

Argh... Crying at blogs... again! Happy 18th to your J-bear.

anglophilefootballfanatic said...

Aren't you the most un-wicked stepmother, ever? I love you so much I want you for a MIL or SIL or stepmom.

Alison said...

Happy birthday Jbear...both you and Janet are very lucky woman to have each other.

ChrisB said...

That is a wonderful tribute to a beautiful young lady. Happy Birthday and Congratulations to your J-bear.

Junebug said...

Whew, Janet! Stop that! Making me teary! That was soooooo good. Happy Birthday, J-Bear. That is an incredible relationship. Whew!

Pamela said...

that was just downright touching to my soul Janet.

Judith Shakespeare said...

Your birthday posts always make me sniffle.

Happy (late) birthday!

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