Saturday, August 16, 2008

Back in the old Roo-teen

Long ago in a galaxy far far away -- at LEAST as far back as last week -- I polled the blogosphere about whether I should read the Roo-girl's angst-ridden teen poetry ... which she had left out in the open.

Well. The response in favor of snoopage was overwhelming, both from the curiosity AND from the "keep tabs on your child so you know where her head is" perspectives.

OF COURSE, you do know that I read them. In fact, I mostly read them before all y'all gave me the go-ahead.

Am I all about the sharing? Yes, but I'm also all about the privacy, so I have vowed to only share the basic subject matter. Here ya go:

Girl likes boy, boy doesn't know girl is alive, girl asks friend to ask boy about girl, friend does, boy is clear that he just not that into the girl, girl dies a million deaths, girl bleeds tears all over spiral notebook, the end.

You can do the math.

But just to show you I'm not completely changed, I WILL share: the declarations I have found in public places, for example her Facebook status, her instant message messages, things like that.

I figure if she puts it out there that publically, it's meant for me -- and you -- to read.

These are in chronological order, from earliest to latest:

The Roo-girl will be ok ... eventually.

Two days later ...

The Roo-girl won't be ok for a long time.

A day after that ...

The Roo-girl just wants it all to be ok again ...

This past weekend...

The Roo-girl wishes things could be simple again.

And message that KILLS me and that sat on her outgoing instant message window:

"you crushed my heart with your words."

Followed closely by:

how is that when evr i get my hopes up something comes and crushes me??

This is going to be a looooooooooong adolescence.

23 comments:

Aoj and The Lurchers said...

Everything always seems so bad at that age. I remember my step-brother's heart being broken at 16, I have never seen a boy cry so much. It was a desperate time for him.

Yuu know and I know that Roo Girl will move on from this, it's just that she doesn't yet. She will look back at this one day and smile but for now, she hurts and I really feel for her.

Carolie said...

OMG, the flashbacks! Did we all have to go through this pain? I look back, rolling my eyes and laughing at my angst-ridden self...but at the same time, I remember the pain and the drama and the drama and the pain...

Here's hoping it goes quickly for both you AND the RG!

Melissa said...

That's brutal. But she will move on. Has cheer season started yet? Once she gets all wrapped up in that she won't have time to think about it anymore.

SuburbanCorrespondent said...

I can't bear reading that stuff - gives me traumatic flashbacks to eighth grade. I do it, but as little as possible, just to make sure I know what is going on.

But, I would never blog about it. What if she read your blog? She'd know.

The Facebook stuff? I agree, fair game!

nikki said...

Ken's angst filled texting is just as bad. His first crush. We think his first kiss. I can't take this.

ChrisB said...

My grandson was devastated (aged 14) when his girlfriend finished with him. We were secretly pleased because she treated him badly. He's now 15 and has another girlfriend so fragile hearts can mend quickly at that age.

Hope Roo Girl finds a worthy boyfriend.

Junebug said...

Fragile hearts at any age...

Karen said...

Oh, yeah. to be 16 again. Don't you just wish that was all you had to worry about? she sounds so very normal to me.

My children are all in their 30's now. when they were young, I used to wish that I had the powers of ET, so that I could just touch them with my finger and they would magically "know" all I knew, so they would be spared the pain of it all. But, as we all know, feeling the pain of learning about relationships is part of the growing experience. She will live through this and be a better Roo at the other end of it.

Molly said...

Ah teen years, "those were the days my friend I thought that they'd never end." But, I am sure glad that they did end both my own angst guilt-ridden days and the sad pensive anger-filled teen days of my sons.

Molly said...

Very clever title

Janet said...

Oh my. Did she copy my journal from high school? Oh my. I wouldn't be a teenager again for a bemigazillion dollars. Or even a date with Viggo. Uh, well, scratch that last one.

Kelley said...

My heart aches. For you. She will get over it eventually, but as a Mum it is so hard to see that pain and not actually go and murder the other person for making your baby feel that way.

And for the record, I wouldn't have read them. But I am in the minority, hurt a million hurts by my mother sharing my intimate details with the family. One of my girlfriends reads all of her kids stuff including text messages.

my4kids said...

I'd never redo my teen years....Hope she's okay soon. And you of course also.

anglophilefootballfanatic.com said...

High school sucks donkey balls and platypus ass.

VDog said...

HOLY SNAP that's going to be a long adolescence. Dayum.

I'll send the wine.

Jenni said...

That's a stage I'd never want to go back to. Someday she'll probably look back at all that stuff and be pretty embarrassed by it. Good thing you only have to go through adolescence once.

LceeL said...

She is such a super kid - she'll be fine.

Burgh Baby said...

Can you just shove some cute puppies, pretty rainbows, and magical unicorns up her ass and make it all OK?

Tink said...

I wouldn't wish back the teen years for ANYTHING. Sure, you're young and beautiful and have the whole world at your fingertips... But none of that matters when the dude your crushing on just won't crush back.

Marmarbug said...

Ugh! Sounds like a Bella and Edward drama!

Colleen said...

awww...poor Roo...she needs to go hang with the girls and see a movie or have a sleepover and proclaim "Boys Are Stinky"...my mantra from college.

Sandy C. said...

OMG! Why does that ALL sound so familiar? Suddenly I feel the need to doodle on the back of a spiral notebook ;)

I do feel bad for poor Roo Girl. Everything seems so magnified and eternal at that age.

Hope all things are simple again soon.

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Momisodes Wuz Here

Pamela said...

you are entering the invisible zone.
When my girls were in that stage I was never consulted, didn't know "anything," was stupid, yada yada yada.

May the force be with you.

 
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