Tuesday, April 14, 2009

The circle of life

I'm a little lost.

I have funny stories to tell from Passover, but it just seems 27 ways of wrong to tell them today.

Today, when the Spohrs are saying goodbye to their precious Maddie ...

... and when my sister-in-law is saying goodbye to her precious mother.

A woman who, not even a week ago, sat at my left hand at Seder dinner.

And laughed until Manischewitz wine came out of her nose and tears ran down her cheeks when my brother read his part of the Passover service in a spontaneous and spot-on imitation of her late husband, complete with thick Eastern European accent.

A woman who, a mere 48 hours later, had a massive stroke and who, yesterday, was taken off life support.

Jewish law and tradition dictate that we bury our dead quickly. Which we will do.

And then life will go on.

But there will be two holes in my heart. One for a special baby I didn't know, and one for a special woman I did.

I will miss them both.


Eternal Sunshine said...


red pen mama said...

So sorry to hear about your family's loss.

Hope you'll still tell the funny stories. Sometimes laughter is what gets us through the toughest times.


Joyce-Anne said...

I'm sorry for your loss. Hugs.

The Duchess of Wessex said...

Gracious, Janet! I am truly sorry for your loss - your memories of your loved one at your recent meal together sound like such a gift. Memories you and your family will cherish forever and hopefully, bring you comfort. I just spent some time on the Blog sites for Maddie and I am just heartbroken. Over both losses. Be well, my friend, and know that you are never alone.

Anglophile Football Fanatic said...

Oh, sweetie. I'm sorry the SIL's mom didn't recover. I'll say some prayers.

Momisodes said...

I am so sorry to hear about your family's loss. But I am glad that your family was able to share some moments with her last week.

My heart goes out to your family and Maddie's.

Janet said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your SIL's Mom; Janet, there's been entirely too much death this year. Entirely.

Kelley @ magnetoboldtoo said...

I am sad to hear of your friends passing. I know how worried about her you were.

And the babies (there is another baby, Thalon, the passed in these last few days) break my heart.

Sometimes it is good to laugh at the silly, celebrate life. Even when you are sad.

Suzanne said...

I am so sorry for your family's loss.

songbird's crazy world said...

May G-d comfort you and all the mourners of Zion.

Pamela said...

circle of life. not so long ago my youngest daughter mentioned that life was just a series of funerals.

But on the other end are the births, the birthdays, the weddings, the joyous occasions.

Jaina said...

Beautiful post Janet. My heart is with everyone experiencing loss.

Janet said...

Oh no, I'm so sorry I haven't been here. What a shock for everyone. At least she did not suffer long.

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