Today, the United States Supreme Court struck down the federal Defense of Marriage Act and declined to rule on California's Prop 8, which essentially lets stand the lower court ruling that struck down the ban on same-sex marriage in my state. Several years ago, during the height of that struggle, I wrote this for another site I contributed to. I have reprinted it here before. I would do all the hyperlinking that explains it all, but if you don't know what's going on today, climb out from under that rock.
my personal wish as only one of the many, many families touched by what the Supreme Court has done today. Because those of us who ARE affected are not just faceless
numbers. We're real people with dreams and hopes.
And so, in honor of a momentous occasion, I thought it was appropriate to reprint it -- slightly edited and updated for today's events:
Once upon a time, there was a little boy with a dream.
He dreamed of love. A romantic love, in fact. Of love that transcended the ages.
He knew that his dream was not really all that realistic. It was a dream, after all.
But he continued to hope that one day he would meet the one person in the world who was absolutely perfect for him.
The one person who would understand his dark moments.
The one person who would understand his sense of humor.
The one person who would be the yin to his yang.
The one person who would love him back with the same intensity.
The one person who was meant just for him.
There were many dark years as the little boy grew up. Many years when he thought that one person didn't really exist.
Many false starts. Many times when he thought ... maybe? This time? Is this the one?
many times when his heart was broken. Not just broken, but smashed to
little pieces by a person who turned out to be much less than he
The little boy is now less than five months from his 30th birthday. About five years ago, that elusive "person" he was seeking appeared.
And he knows love.
Someone who understands his dark moments.
Someone who understands his sense of humor.
Someone who is the yin to his yang.
Someone who loves him back with the same intensity.
Someone who was meant just for him.
Today, something happened that would open the way for the little boy and his true love to be able to get married.
Today, it has been decided that it still can happen when he's ready.
As the little boy's mother, I want that for him.
I want for him and his boyfriend to know the joys and sorrows, the ups and downs, of marriage.
I want to dance at my son's wedding.